I recently heard someone say: “Harsh reality is better than false hope.”
The quote seems based in negativity. I’m sure some would disagree, but the fact that reality is described as “harsh” and hope as “false,” leads me to believe it is not a saying used to offer encouragement very often.
Sayings like this get the juices flowing. It would be more advantageous to concentrate on other things, but there is no controlling my mind when it wanders. So, I pack it a little bag, make sure it has snacks for the trip, and off it goes.
Taking the adjectives off the main words, leaves an even more dismal message: “Reality is better than hope.” If that were true, just take me now, Lord. I’m done.
Reality is extremely important…a springboard for all other actions or choices moving forward. I do not believe reality to always be harsh, although it certainly can be. Here is another saying that comes to mind (one that gives a couple of my friends fits): “It is what it is”. That saying is neither negative or positive, just very plain speech, which clearly identifies reality. It does not mean that circumstances can not change, improve or deteriorate. It means- here we are…this is our reality. So, now what?
How exactly does one equate “false hope?” In order to do so, an awful lot of judgement would need to be swung around- deciding something will never come to fruition for another. It would be like telling a woman 100 years ago, that the right to vote was a false hope. Sixty years ago- telling NASA that a man on the moon was an impossibility. Twenty years ago- denying that a man of color would ever be president.
Reality is that spot on the map, marked with a big red X, that says: you are here. And hope is everything that is not visible on the map. It is in the underbrush of the outlying areas and on the mountaintops off in the distance. It is in the birth of a child, the start of a love, and truth.
As my mind returns from its little outing, there is no grand thought or finality on the subject. Hope and reality are in a constant state of change. I find it incredibly hard to keep up.